This is the confidence we have in approaching God: that if we ask anything according to his will, he hears us – 1 John 5:14
It’s so important for us to understand the power of prayer. More specifically, the power in OUR prayers. The reason I differentiate is that I’ve seen too many of us run to someone for prayer before we’ve even prayed on our own. It’s sort of an impulsive thing. Now, don’t get me wrong! There is such value in Community but too often we rely on others to fight battles for us.
Recognizing the power we have in our own prayers is key, especially in marriage! There is so much restoration and healing that happens by bringing our needs, wants, fears… (you name it)… to God. For the sake of this post, I’m going to focus on one type of prayer that has really made a difference in my life and marriage.
Praying for my husband, daily.
This has been one of the most rewarding prayers! Don’t let that fool you, though; At times, it has been one of the most challenging. Praying for Jeff takes me down a road of selflessness and discipline. A road where my faith and trust in God are tested. Reality is that I can’t change my husband. We’ll dig a little deeper, in a later post, into what I’ve learned about the purpose of marriage and changing your partner.
I’ve made it a point to pray for Jeff DAILY. Instead of worrying about the things I can’t change or control, I run to God in prayer. This doesn’t mean ditch communication with your spouse because “God will take care of it all”. There’s a balance. We’ll talk a little more about this too!
My prayers look different each day. Some days I’m fully grounded and I focus on pushing my husband forward and uplifting him to be his best. Other days, the Holy Spirit will put a specific area in his life for me to focus on. On my low days, I’m hyper-focused on a certain “something” he said or did. We all know what that means! One made up story in our heads and it’s a bottomless pit that we’re in. Those days are comprised of prayer for my husband but also prayer for myself (Read 2 Corinthians 10:5).
Here are a few practical things you can start with when taking this daily opportunity for healing:
- “Guard his mind and heart from temptation” (Proverbs 4:23, Proverbs 17:20)
- “Guard his every step” (John 10:10, 2 Thessalonians 3:3)
- “Help him trust in You so that he may understand your Will” (Proverbs 3:5-6)
- “Assure him that nothing he encounters today is too difficult for you” (Psalm 9:10, Ephesians 6:10)
- “May he understand your love for him” (Romans 5: 2-5, Romans 5:8)
Being selfless in this type of prayer places us in a state of surrender in God’s presence. See it as a way of giving back to God what He has allowed you to borrow. We are on earth alongside our spouse, pursuing Christ, but at the end of the day, our spouses belong to God.